THE TRAUMA OF CHILD ABUSE
How do we deal with the trauma of child abuse? Trauma affects people differently, my personal belief is that how an individual deals with trauma always goes back to two things, the nature a child is born with and the nurture it receives as a child. All children are born with their personality its how its influenced by adults.
If you have a soft shy child you can bolster its self-esteem an confidence as its growing up be supportive and lead them in ways that help them cope and live in society…but treat them the opposite way and the child grows up into a shy reserved adult with little or no self belief, always looking at the negative and struggling to cope with the simplest of traumas…then you have the strong willed child..who with the right nurture are the natural leaders of society…but the wrong nurture for a strong child can bend that strong personality into that angry destuctive kind of adult who rages against the world………….
I was the stong willed child no matter how many bad times I went through I always fought back sometimes to my own dettriment..as i knew that it didnt matter which way i behaved I was going to be in trouble anyway.
To find freedom from this trauma doesnt come easy you have to let go of the past or it eats at your very being destoying your future.. To reach freedom you have to hit your own rock-bottom.. And many don’t leave rockbottom they are crushed under a life of self destuct.. Others find a hand of hope from whatever direction it comes from…and then it’s small steps deal with living then deal with the past… This gives the freedom to deal with your future.. You also have to deal with your personal shame….Shame keeps the secrets… A child isn’t born with shame it’s instilled by adults…and society..and that’s the worst for this moulds the adult and that cycle goes on..
Some adults find something or someone that helps break the bonds of shame.. They then help others even in small ways… It’s like a network of people growing stronger and louder the bigger we get… The stongest weapon against all wrongs is speech… Tell others help them talk…and teach that not all love is bad… Show real love to those you care about, dont be scared of your emotions.. understand love an it’s power… Teach the difference even in small ways……….
I have lived with the trauma of my childhood all my adult life. since i confronted my father ( after my mother died) I have started to move on. it has not been easy . I just know its my past and not my future.